This sound like a rather hippy lesson, and granted this lesson took me a while to realise…..
The good news is I did realise it and I am sharing it with you, if your confortable in yourself, people will just feed off that.
I do and say some random shit, or I did when I wrote this post, I am only young after all, and people find it funny, join in or are just confortable with it.
This is probably one the hardest lessons to explain but also the simplest, if you are genuinely confortable with the things you do and say people can tell.
You can have two people who look exactly the same, and say the same words, but if one is confortable and genuinely believes what they are saying and the other is not and doesn’t believe it they will get two completely different reactions.
One good, one bad.
Even though they said the same thing and look the same.
Here’s another real example:
I don’t really remember how this came about but I remember a time when me and your mother where first dating, I think I was getting a drink from the shared kitchen in only my boxers and then saw her flat mate and she said something to me, can’t remember what but I ended up picking her up and throwing her on her bed, and we both found it funny, if someone else did the same the girls would probably have found it weird, or awkward and you know they probably did find it awkward but in a funny way and they all loved me, they showed me this in this own way, again and again over time.
And this perfectly demonstrates my point, just don’t tell your mother, she’s probably forgotten!